1. Having an hour just for yourself can be delicious.
Sometimes I have clients ask of they can just come in my office and nap, or if they can just hang out in our waiting room and read (or even work.) I tell them yes, but I cannot bill insurance for that.
Many of us live multitasked lives. With or without children, there's always someone pulling on our sleeve, asking for our attention. Sometimes I think the most powerful internvention I offer is creating a space for someone to try out just being.
2. Therapy can be physically hard work.
So you go and sit on a couch for fifty minutes or so. What's so hard about that?
Clients are sometimes surprised to discover how very tired they are when a session is done. It's hard work looking at what you've successfully avoided for so long. Or challenging a belief you'd carved in stone. (Like the belief that you don't matter as much as someone else, anyone else.)
3. Therapy can leave you lighter.
Life feels different. On the other side of healing, life feels different. It's not all bluebirds and sunshine but something changes. Lifes not as hard because you're not beating yourself up all of the time. It's not as heavy because you've let go of at least some of the garbage that never belonged to you in the first place.
4.Contrary to the movies, your therapist will not sleep with you or become your best friend.
It can get frustrating at times when even very good movies show therapists blithely doing things that would get them suspended by most state boards.
Most of us will give you some kind of disclosure document whch includes statements to the effect that we will not be your friend on Facebook or in real life. We do that because the therapeutic realtionship is unlike any other. Part of what makes it safe is that you don't have to worry about taking care of me. Keeping professional boundaries is part of what makes it safe for you to be vulnerable, to do deep work, to risk saying things out loud that you've hardly even said to yourself.
5.Therapy may be one of the most selfless things you do.
Sometimes people feel guilty for spending the time and money on themselves. But talking care of your own self is one of the best gifts you can give to the people whom you love.
One of the joys of my work is seeing the ripple effects of what happens in my office. Clients become better spouses, partners, parents, friends and coworkers as they heal.
If you're in the Winston-Salem area and are interested in talking about embarking on this journey for yourself, give me a call (336-273-4407).